Something you probably didn’t know about me (but that my private clients, besties and family do): I have no problem calling things like I see it. I may seem sweet, but when I see people doing things & repeating thought patterns that keep them continually stuck, or block them from living the life I know they are so deeply craving and wishing for, I CALL IT OUT.
All out of love, of course. Because sometimes we don’t do that for ourselves, and it keeps us stuck, stale, and repeating the same cycles.
It’s a part of the job.
So, just a heads up, that today is one of those tough-love days.
Because the Simply Real Life Program closes next Wednesday 4/4/18 (and earlybird registration bonuses close tomorrow (Saturday 3/31/18) and I know, (I KNOW)– that there are some of you considering it, but are still a little nervous. I’ve gotten so many emails in the last day, all of which, asking the same kinds of questions:
Wondering if now is the perfect time…..or maybe you’ll just do it next year. And what if you’ve tried everything, and nothing’s really worked for the long term… so why would this?
I know. I get it. Those are real things.
But. If we were sitting down, drinking our matcha lattes together at the coffee shop, I’d probably look you straight in the eye and lovingly ask: could it be a little bit of fear?
Of failing at one more thing.
Fear of not following through and honoring yourself.
Fear of what others will think if this too, doesn’t work.
Or maybe, it’s a nervousness to give up your current routine and comforts, for the unknown. Like, what if I make you give up things that you don’t want to?!
(although, for the record: I don’t).
Or, maybe it’s being afraid of actually feeling those feelings that you’ve kept bottled in and tightly stuffed down, for your whole life. Because, without using food as a distraction and source of comfort or numbing, what will come up when you actually dig into that stuff?
Or, maybe it’s not that kind of fear at all. Maybe it’s that you’re afraid that you don’t deserve to live a life that’s healthy and calm and balanced and happy.
Ooo. Is that it? If so, all I ask is that you pay some extra special attention and give some love to that. Because that’s a mindset that has to shift first for anything to actually work. Luckily that’s the first part of the program anyways. You are worth it, so own that.
Or that you’re afraid it feels selfish and narcissistic to do a whole program around you, and your relationship to food.
Life is busy, I know, and so many other people rely on you. Taking time and money to finally focus on this big thing, feels not as urgent. Although it’s so heavily important in the way your days play out, and a calm and steadiness that only helps a busy life feel less chaotic. And, you are truly a role model – that whatever your relationship to food is, will permeate out to your sweet babies, partner, and family too.
It’s not selfish. It’s actually one of the best gifts you could ever give to someone. But you have to see it in that bigger scope, of the impact taking 6 small weeks to focus on this piece alone, and the direct effect it will have in the years after it.
Or maybe, you’re afraid that even with all the tools, support, love, and a step by step plan, that you’ll still get in your own way, and self-sabotage yourself.
Mmm hmm. Pay attention to that.
Is that something you always want to be a part of your life, or are you ready to release that because it’s not serving you anymore and move forward?
Or maybe it’s just the fear of being uncomfortable, or being challenged, and of your routine being shaken up. And that you don’t have enough time to deal with that.
Or worse- what happens if you DO succeed and shift so many things in the next 6 weeks? What will you be like then? How will it change things? What will the people you love think of you?
Ooo, yes. Pay attention to that too my love.
That only good things come from doing this work. For you, and for everyone around you. You becoming more aware, in tune and connected helps you have more patience, joy, energy, love and time for the things that really matter.
Or, maybe, it’s a fear of sticking out, being different, or finally asking for what you want in life. That feels scary, for sure. Fair.
But life is so much better when you can let this stuff go.
I just want you to know– all of these things, are normal. They’re not weird.
But they most defiantly are things that don’t have to hold you back, if you’re sick of them doing so, in so many points in your life.
It’s usually the things we “fear” the most, that are the ones that we most need to face, and to finally address. That’s where change can actually happen.
But we have to bring it to the light.
And instead of running or turning away, what if you softly leaned into it, this one time? That lesson alone in saying no to fear, and yes to bigger things in life, is the only starting point you need for success in something like this.
So, pay attention to those thoughts, and those things. But, see them for what they really are. Warning signs or arrows, helping to guide the way?
Only you know, deep down. And only you get to choose which way you want to see them, and what you want to do about it.
Either way, I’m just rooting for you over here. For your best, happiest and healthiest life. Because there is nothing that has served my life more than getting out my own way, and taking ownership in my own life.
My prayer is that you will also do the same, in whatever way will make the most impact for you. Because how beautiful it is that we always get a choice, and are always allowed to give ourselves permission to finally let go of the things that keep us stuck and not growing and moving forward in our lives. It’s the only thing that actually changes us, for good.
So, let’s talk for a second, about the reverse. About what will happen if you don’t address these things?
- your not-so-great relationship to food, guilt and eating habits would get passed on to your young babies, kids and teenagers, repeating the cycle for another generation.
- it can affect all of your close relationships, especially in marriage, dating, or with your partner. Food is involved in so many parts of life, that getting grounded and feeling more free to experience life by way of food, is so worth digging down for just a few weeks to figure it out, just for your relationships alone. It’s also very hard for one person to have a great relationship to food and not gently spread it to the other one. It’s that deep and that powerful.
- that feeling of un-fulfillment won’t go away. There will always be a constant chase for the next diet, workout plan, vacation panicking, etc. You will never really feel settled, or totally present with where you are (and happy about it), without addressing this underlying piece.
- a more distracted/scattered life with wild swings up and down, phases of being “good” and then “bad”. Like a bad rollercoaster that doesn’t end.
- guilt continues to runs the show, and food is the boss of you. Always.
- continue to work the uphill battle, which is physically (and mentally, and emotionally exhausting). You can continue to waste precious time & resources focusing on everything else, when in reality, embracing that you want a better relationship to food and taking action on it, is the ONE THING that naturally moves and shifts everything else.
- sign up for a life in auto-pilot. Disconnected. Out of tune. And like a robot, repeating the same patterns that keep you stuck.
Read more about the Simply Real Life Program here. Registration closes on Wednesday 4/4 for this once a year program, with lifetime access, support and membership.